I regularly tell our men, “I’m not your wife’s pastor. You are. My job is to help you do a great job!”

Which brings me to us. The Pastors with a capital P. Leaders have to be at least one step ahead. The future growth and reaching power of your Church is located right where husbands lead, nurture, cherish, and feed their wives…or not!

Certainly one of the most common complaints of those married to Pastors is the sense that the Church comes before them. I think all of us would say that there have been times when we failed in this department. So, what about now? How are we demonstrating to our children that their mother is more important than the Church? 

If our children were asked, “Does your father put your mother above the Church?” Well, o.k. we won’t do that. 

We all believe that our wives are more important. Absolutely. No question. But we aren’t the ones asking the question.  No, it’s what our wives think and feel that is the issue.

Think friendship. Think quality time looking into one another’s eyes with the spark of delight!  

Are you sharing one’s another’s current insecurities? What if I ask us all, “Am I going where she is emotionally and sharing that space with her? Am I assisting her to overcome her fears?”

I have a great marriage. We are deeply in love; but I also find that busyness is an on-going challenge to what I believe. Perhaps it is helpful for us all to ponder the words of Hebrews 3 : “Encourage one another day after day, as long as it is called ‘Today’, so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of (busyness).”



Jerry Daley, Senior Pastor
GraceLife Church